A number of relationships hit the rocks in 2015. Some of the main factors that led to these broken relationships were; first, the couple’s lack of understanding about each other’s personality which made maximizing their differences impossible. Also, some of the partners in these broken relationships were unwilling to compromise on their expectations.
For example, in one of the cases I handled, the guy believed the lady was stubborn and would not listen to all his corrective suggestions while the lady felt the Guy is a bully because he complains too much. Though they profess to love each other, their relationship did not survive through 2015. This couple taught me a new lesson; having a good relationship is not dependent on finding a good person. If you find a good person and you are unable to manage the relationship well it still will not work. Below are some tips on how to improve your relationship in 2016.
One of the easiest ways to improve a relationship is when each partner in the relationship makes conscious efforts towards understanding himself/herself first before trying to understand the other person. Self-knowledge helps you to know why you have certain expectations of your spouse and if those expectations are necessary. Self-knowledge also helps you to know for sure if the person you are in a relationship with is the one for you.
Have a life. Have a job or vocation that keeps you busy. Don’t let your relationship be an escape from boredom. Your relationship will not enjoy any improvement if that is all your life is centered on. Have other friends that make you emotionally balanced; it will be burdensome on your partner if you expect only him/her to supply all the love you need to be emotionally stable.
When dealing with children, parents are often advised to pay the same amount of attention to what the children do right as they do to the things the children do wrong. This is so that complaints is not the only expression the children get from their parents. I believe it is important to accord adults the same privilege. You cannot hope to change someone by complaining about everything they do wrong without stopping to identify and applaud the things they do right. This is a new year and a fresh opportunity to be generous with commendations.
Consciously design a plan for your relationship this year. Ensure your plan include ways to invest in your partner physically, intellectually and emotionally. Know your partner’s love language and consciously nourish it. But, be careful if your spouse’s love language is physical touch and you are not yet married. Build genuine friendship. Do not let the need to develop friendship be interrupted by kisses or sex at worse. Get to know each other better. Also, do not be in a hurry to meet his/her parents; concentrate on getting to know your partner first.
Another way to describe marriage is the coming together of two people who have purged themselves of selfishness. Hence, show genuine care by considering the needs of your spouse alongside yours. I believe nobody is too poor to give something, so love with your resources and not only your mouth.
Have something you do together for fun. A couple friend of ours told us some years back that they both registered for swimming lessons, I admired their decision but I could not appreciate the importance of their action until I started going to the gym with my husband. Having something to do together as a couple ensures you spend time together and it also increases your closeness.
Pay attention to your spouse. Do not assume you know how he/she is feeling, ask to be sure. Do not assume you know where the discussion is going, listen attentively. Review the challenges you had from the past, analyze what that means to your relationship and maximize your discovery towards improving your relationship with your spouse.
Finally, be a better-praying couple in the new year. A future awaits you and you need to prayerfully prepare for it. In addition, praying together as a couple often ensures you do not stay angry with each other for too long.
by hotdropz